No contest. I must thank my wife.

It’s Thanksgiving Day in the U.S. A time to gather with friends and family, eat a big meal and reflect upon the blessings in our lives. Many will consume too much in our land of plenty. Too much food. Too much alcohol. Too much football. Others will be more sparing in their consumption and take advantage of the time to talk, laugh, play, and reconnect or strengthen bonds.

For me, it’s a quiet day planned. We’re not cooking a big bird with an abundance of side dishes heavy on the carbs and sugars. We’ve got a modest boneless turkey breast and some reasonable side dishes planned. More along the lines of a regular family dinner than a national holiday event.

It’s just us five for today. Once #1 son gets home from his job at the city jail, we’ll serve up the food and talk. The rest of the family is sleeping in as I sip my morning coffee and compose this post. The quiet house allows me to reflect back over the years at all we’ve experienced and how much my wife has put up with me. Today, I must thank her.

I have been a man in our marriage. Note that I did not insert a single modifier before the word “man.” That was intentional. There are many that could apply at various times over the past 27 years.


  • You had a baby. I need a computer. We just got a new credit card. I’m buying a new machine this weekend.
  • We’ve got a baby sitter tonight. Let’s go used car shopping and buy something before we have to drive her home in a few hours. No, I haven’t done any research. We’ll find something good, I’m sure.


  • Sure, we’ll take your cat. He goes with the carpet and furniture. We’re new first-time home buyers about to start having children. What could go wrong?
  • Come on son, let’s go buy your first car without running a car history report on it. The nice guy living in the trailer park seems honest.


  • Yes. I realize we have three small children. Why do you think I work full-time?
  • You know I need to continue my college classes nights and weekends. That degree will pay off in the future.
  • The church needs me. That’s why I volunteer four nights a week between classes.


  • This business opportunity is going to help us get out of debt faster once it takes off. Sure, we’re spending money up front. That’s an investment. We’ll make it all back quickly and then the profits will start rolling in.
  • The roof is leaking? No problem. I’ll climb up there with the tar bucket as soon as it stops raining. Wait, it’s running down the boy’s bedroom walls? I’ll go up on the roof now.

Through the years, she has suffered through the consequences of my choices. She openly expressed her opinions at every turn but in the end, relented to my decisions. She knows my stubborn tendencies, chooses not to fight, and goes over my head to God. She prays for me. She prays for God to change my heart. She prays for God to grant me wisdom and insight when making choices.

She told me that one of her prayers was a simple, “You fix him, God. I can’t.”

Thanks for not giving up on me.

Is there a person you should’ve thanked, but never had the chance? Is there someone who helped you along the way without even realizing it? Here’s your chance to express your belated gratitude.

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